Recently, my son sent another Jefferson Bethke video called "What does it mean to be truly human." You may read the words below or check it out on youtube. These words describe the problem of pride and our need to lay it down.
I know we just met, and you’ve been watching this video for all of two seconds now, but I have a serious and personal question I want to ask you. What’s that one thing in your life that no one knows about it? What’s that particular area in your heart that you spend almost all your energy trying to hide? When I ask myself that question, a big thing that comes to my mind is my struggle with loneliness or I try to hide those days when I really don’t feel inclined to follow Jesus because, while I make videos that tell other people about following Jesus, so that’s not okay.
Or a big thing I don’t like people knowing is that sometimes, I stay up all night terrified that I’m going to be a failure at being a husband or a father. See we all live behind these propped up versions of ourselves masking the shame, putting band aids on the guilt or trying to suffocate the temptations all by ourselves. The problem though is, we weren’t created to do it all by ourselves.
To be truly human is to be truly known and someone who hides can’t be known. We are created to need each other, to be honest with each other, to encourage each other and to love each other, and that only happens when we’re open with each other.
I mean, think about it. The paradox of the American culture is we’re more connected than we’ve ever been; only in 2013 can we tell what all our friends had for lunch that day, all across the world, but we are also the most disconnected, the most fragmented, splintered, corrupt and [edited] people in history.
Liking someone else’s status that talks about us needing to be open and honest with each other doesn’t count as us being open and honest with each other. See, in C. S. Lewis’s famous novel “The Great Divorce”, he paints a very unique picture of hell being a place where every person lives in complete isolation thousands of miles away from the nearest neighboring individual, and the caveat is they chose it to be that way.
That’s an awfully interesting look at hell, don’t you think? Living in isolation on an island with no community or vulnerability with anyone else’s stripping ourselves of our humanity. Why because we are created in the image of God, and God is a community. The Father, the Son, the Spirit are acting as one, serving one another completely dependent on one another, and to be truly human is to do the same.
And yes, I know what you are thinking. It’s scary to be honest. It’s scary to be open. In fact, some times the person on the other side will reject us. They will hurt us, or they’ll make us want to crawl back into our isolated cave. But joy is at staking, it only happens when we let the guard down. See me; I’d rather take the messiness of community, and possible joy than the cleanliness of isolation, in sure despair. Because if you want to know the true depths of joy, and the true reality of love, then you have to be honest, open and transparent.
Again, C. S. Lewis said it best, and I’ll end with this, he said “To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, then you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your own selfishness. But in that casket safe, dark, motionless and airless, it will change. It won’t be broken; but it will become unbreakable, impenetrable and irredeemable.” Because to love is to be vulnerable.
Hey guys, hope that video was an encouragement to you. A lot of you have asked in the comments and in emails to kind of provide further resources with my videos, and so we though with this particularly, we’ll start doing that. And the two things I can think of that can kind of push you deeper on this one is, one is get in some type of community or church or gathering together where you are honest and open, you have to do that and you have to be proactive not reactive.
And then, secondly, if you want to personally study or read about this topic, a book that inspired this video entirely is a book call Open by Craig Groeschel. It kind of talks about how to navigate something like this, and so you can read that personally or you can read that in a group which is a great way to do that as well.
So that’s all I can think of for now, and I hope it’s an encouragement. Love you guys.
[Jefferson Bethke] Source: LYBIO.net